I think you tried to phone me today, I hadn't really gotten out of bed then and I wasn't ready to talk just yet. As you guessed I am upset. you tell me last Tuesday that you're not going to come over on Thursday, and then on Wednesday that you're not going to come over next week either. Your reasons for the first week is that you have to do housework and that you spent four days at my place. I am so sorry by the way that spending four days at my place was such a burden to you. Do you know what I would give to be able to spend four days at your place? But that was fine actually. But then your reason for not coming over the second week is because you have two parties to go to. So they're clearly OK to prioritise over housework then. Did you not think I would be offended that not only do you not consider inviting me to either of them, but that the fact that because of them you automatically decided you wouldn't see me mid week? So its OK to not see me mid week then? Well why stop there, why should two weeks be an issue? Why don't we just see each other once a month and just check in on each other by e-mail? If you can go and socialise on your own why can't I? If you can prioritise housework over coming to see me why can't I? I didn't think I'd have to discuss it with you as you didn't think it was necessary to discuss not seeing me next week with me either. As you rightly stated, as you come see me mid week I should come over to your place 2 weekends for your every 1. But I think if you don't come and see me for 2 mid weeks does it work in reverse where I have one weekend on my own? I'll admit, perhaps I am being petty. That was partly the reason I wanted to be on my own to think about things. Perhaps this time you let me have this weekend to do whatever I want on my own, and we'll call it quits.

Hi Sweetheart,

I don't want to sound like I don't support your studies, because I do, but I sense there is more to it than this. You've cancelled at short notice with no hint of regret for not coming; no offer to spend just one evening rather than the weekend; no discussion of any kind. You well know that we won't be seeing each other for two weeks as a result. Perhaps you were expecting me to come to edgware instead? Or you just don't want to be inconvenienced. I think something is bothering you, but you never talk to me about it. I don't know what's going on. I can't read minds.

Anyway, have a good weekend.

Stan

You're right, I don't want to be inconvenienced.