You tell me on Tuesday that you're not going to come over on Thursday. Then on Wednesday that you're not going to come over next week either. Your reason for not coming over this week is because you want to do house work, which I appreciate... but you know it still hurts. I appreciate that you are tired at the end of your day and you don't want to travel to my place, but even so what it ends up sounding like is that you don't feel that seeing me is worth making that effort for... and it hurts. So you spent four nights at my place; I am so sorry if that was such a huge burden on you. Do you know what I would give to be able to spend four nights at your place? But that wasn't what it was, prioritising house work over seeing me is one thing, but then you tell me the reason you can't see me next week is because you have two parties to go to, so clearly that's OK to prioritise over housework then. Can you see how that might make me feel? So I don't express any regret, I cancel last minute, no discussion of any kind... is any of this sounding familiar to you now? And don't act all innocent like you don't know what I'm talking about, if you really had no idea then you would have called to ask me what was going on by now. And you know what really gets me? I always invite you to everything I'm invited to, and if I don't think it would be appropriate for you to go I would say so straight away. Whereas here I clearly wasn't even a consideration in your planning for the week. You didn't even consider meeting up with me for dinner. But perhaps you are right, perhaps I should start going to social appointments on my own, what's the big deal after all? It seems that not seeing me between weekends is fine with you, well why stop there then, why should two weeks be an issue? If you're already finding seeing me more frequently than a couple times a week a chore now then where is this all going? Where are we going?
But in any case you are right, one does need to spend some time on their own to do things that won't otherwise get done. So I decided the best thing to do this weekend is to spend it by myself, then maybe we can both think about where this is going.